Ladki ko impress kaise kare: kya kaam karta hai, kya nahi

Jitna zyada usse impress karne ki koshish karoge,
utna kam woh impress hogi.

Ulta lagta hai na? Par ladki ko impress kaise kare, ye sawaal aksar woh ladke Google karte hain jo pehle hi sab try kar chuke hote hain. Har photo pe "beautiful", birthday pe itna mehenga gift ki woh khud awkward ho gayi. Aur reply aaya, "haha thanks".

Dekho, problem tumhari niyat mein nahi hai. Problem ye hai ki kisi ne tumhe kabhi bataya hi nahi ki ladki actually kis cheez se impress hoti hai, to tumne wahi kiya jo filmon mein dekha tha. Par filmon mein hero ke paas script hoti hai. Real life mein sirf tum ho, aur trust me, itna kaafi hai.

Ladki ko impress kaise kare: seedha point pe aata hoon

Ladki paise, bike ya mehenge gift se impress nahi hoti. Woh us ladke se impress hoti hai jo confident ho par ghamandi na ho, jiske saath usko hasi aaye, jo sach mein uski baat sune, aur jiski apni ek zindagi ho. Kind raho, par har baat pe haan mat bolo, aur plan khud banao. Koshish kam karo, personality zyada dikhao.

Impress karne ke chakkar mein ladke ye 5 galtiyan karte hain

Sabse badi problem ye hai ki ladke inhe galti samajhte hi nahi, unhe lagta hai ye effort hai. Uski taraf se dekho to kahani alag hai.

1. Show-off se shuru karte hain. Pehli date pe car ki chaabi table pe, story pe nayi bike aur caption "new beast", teesri mulaqat pe mehenga gift. Woh sochti hai, "Ye itna kyun kar raha hai?" Aur agar koi in cheezon se impress ho bhi gayi, to woh tumse hui ya tumhare saaman se?
2. Bahut zyada try karna. Uski har story pe sabse pehla reply tumhara, canteen mein roz "coincidence" se usi table pe, reply na aaye to message pe message. Usko lagta hai tumhare paas aur koi kaam hi nahi hai. Zyada effort se zyada attraction nahi aata. Literally ulta hota hai.
3. Har photo pe "beautiful", har story pe "cute". Jo tareef roz milti hai, uski value zero ho jaati hai.
4. Usko Coldplay pasand hai, to achanak tumhe bhi. Tumhe lagta hai haan mein haan milane se connection banega, par jis ladke ki apni koi raay hi na ho, usme jaanne layak bachta kya hai?
5. Aur sabse common: bina spine wala nice guy. "Kahan chalein?" "Jahan tum bolo." "Kab milein?" "Jab tum free ho." Tum kabhi kuch decide nahi karte, aur end mein woh tumhe "bahut sweet" bolti hai. Bas sweet.

Do minute, do ulti baatein, dono pe haan. Ab woh kaise jaane ki tum asal mein kya sochte ho?

Ye paanchon galtiyan ek hi jagah se aati hain, rejection ke darr se. Tum uski haan ke peeche itna bhaagte ho ki apni pehchaan hi kho dete ho.

Ladki kis cheez se impress hoti hai: 7 cheezein jo sach mein kaam karti hain

Inme se kisi ke liye na paisa chahiye, na hero wali shakal. Sab practice se aata hai.

1. Confidence rakho, aur spine bhi

Confidence ka matlab ghamand nahi hai. Confidence ka matlab hai ki tumhe pata hai tumhe kya chahiye, aur tum use bolne se darte nahi ho.

Spine wala ladka zaroorat pade to "na" bol sakta hai, apni raay rakh sakta hai, aur jo ladki pasand hai usko bina ghumaye bata sakta hai. Iske bina achhai kisi ko nazar hi nahi aati.

2. Usko hasao

Tum bhi unhi logon ko yaad rakhte ho jinke saath sabse zyada hase ho. Ladki ko bhi woh ladka yaad rehta hai jiske saath hasi aayi, woh nahi jisne sabse sahi sawaal puche.

Halka sa tease kaam karta hai, bas pyaar se ho. Woh bole "Main bahut badi foodie hoon", to tum: "Pehle test dena padega. Pani puri ke baad sukhi puri maangti ho ya nahi?"

Mazaak uski baaton pe karo, uski shakal, body ya family pe kabhi mat karo. Hamesha yaad rakhna, reaction ke liye kisi ko hurt karna mazaak nahi hota.

3. Sach mein curious raho, aur suno

Zyada tar ladke baat karte waqt sunte nahi, bas apni baari ka wait karte hain. Woh apne din ke baare mein bata rahi hai, aur tumhare dimaag mein agli smart line load ho rahi hai.

Isko ulta karo. Uske jawab ke peeche ka "kyun" pucho, aur jo woh bataye use dimaag mein rakho. Teen din baad "Tumhara woh interview kaisa gaya?" puchna kisi bhi gift se zyada kaam karta hai.

4. Apni zindagi jiyo

Jis ladke ki poori duniya ek ladki ke around ghoomne lage, woh bahut jaldi bojh lagne lagta hai.

Tumhara kaam, dost, gym, koi shauk, guitar ho ya running ya cooking, kuch bhi. Tab tumhare paas usko sunane ke liye kahaniyan hoti hain, aur tum din bhar uske reply ka wait nahi karte. Goals ka matlab bada package nahi hai, bas itna ki tum kisi cheez ki taraf badh rahe ho.

Woh tumhari zindagi ka hissa banna chahti hai, tumhari poori zindagi nahi.

5. Kind raho, par backbone ke saath

Log kehte hain "nice guys finish last". Research is baat se agree nahi karti. Urbaniak aur Kilmann ki ek study hai, 2003 ki, journal Sex Roles mein: serious relationship ke liye ladkiyon ne kind ladke ko chuna, better dikhne wale ko nahi, aur looks ka zyada asar sirf casual rishton mein dikha.

Matlab kindness tumhari taakat hai, chahe waiter se baat karne mein dikhe ya uski "na" ki respect mein.

Bas kind ka matlab doormat nahi hai. Woh ek ghanta late aaye aur sorry bhi na bole, to muskura ke "koi baat nahi" mat bolo. Shaanti se bolo: "Agli baar late ho to ek message kar dena."

6. Plan khud banao

"Kabhi coffee pe chalein?" Is sawaal ka jawab hamesha "haan, kabhi" hota hai, aur woh "kabhi" aaj tak kisi ka nahi aaya.

Isliye plan tum banao. Din, time aur jagah tum batao: "Thursday ko office ke baad free ho? Mere ghar ke paas ek jagah hai, coffee average hai par momos kamaal ke hain. 7 baje chalein?"

Woh busy ho to doosra din suggest karo. Mana kare to muskura ke chhod do, manane ke liye peeche mat pado.

7. Basic grooming pe dhyan do

Branded kapdon ki zaroorat nahi hai, saaf suthre kapdon ki hai. Achha haircut, trim ki hui daadhi, kate hue naakhun, fresh saans, sahi fitting aur saaf joote. Ye sab bina bole bata deta hai ki tum apna khayal rakhte ho.

Aur perfume mein nahane ki zaroorat nahi hai. Do spray kaafi hain.

Ladki ki tareef kaise kare (bina cheesy lage)

Tareef karna galat nahi hai. Galat tareef karna galat hai.

Cheesy tareef ki pehchaan ye hai ki woh line tum kisi bhi ladki ko bhej sakte the. Achhi tareef sirf usi ke liye ho sakti hai, kyunki usme woh hota hai jo sirf tumne notice kiya.

Tareef jo dil tak jaaye

Sabse pehle, uski choices ki tareef karo, sirf looks ki nahi, kyunki looks pe uska koi control nahi tha. Uska style, music taste, kaam, decisions, ye sab usne khud chune hain.

Doosra, specific raho. "You're so nice" koi bhi bol sakta hai. Par "Tum jis tarah security guard ko bhi naam se bulati ho, woh mujhe achha laga" sirf wahi bol sakta hai jo sach mein dhyan de raha tha.

Aur ek baar bolo, bas. Reaction ka wait mat karo, usko repeat mat karo, aur turant baad "aur main kaisa lag raha hoon?" to bilkul mat pucho. Tareef gift hai, usme badle mein kuch nahi maanga jaata.

Cheesy tareef vs achhi tareef

Ye lines tumne bhi kabhi bheji hongi: "Tum duniya ki sabse khoobsurat ladki ho." "Tumhari aankhein jheel jaisi hain." "Tum baaki ladkiyon jaisi nahi ho." Pehli woh sau baar sun chuki hai, doosri Google wali shayari hai, aur teesri mein chupke se baaki ladkiyon ki burai hai.

Iski jagah kuch aisa try karo:

• "Tum apne kaam ke baare mein jis josh se baat karti ho, woh bahut kam logon mein dikhta hai."
• "Tumhara music taste solid hai. Aajkal Lucky Ali kaun sunta hai?"
• "Us din group mein tumne jo point bola, sab chup ho gaye the. Sahi bola tha."
• "Ye color tum pe achha lag raha hai." Looks ki tareef bhi theek hai, jab specific ho aur kabhi kabhi ho.

Na "beautiful", na "cute". Bas woh bola jo sach mein notice kiya tha.

English mein tareef kaise kare

English mein bhi rule wahi hai, chhota aur specific. Jaise "You have a really good eye. Did you click this yourself?" ya "I like how honest you are. Most people just say what others want to hear."

Ladki ko impress karne wale question: 12 sawaal jo baat ko interview nahi banne dete

Baaton se impress karna hai to bolna kam, puchna zyada.

Par woh sawaal nahi jo har koi puchta hai. "Kya karti ho?" "Khana khaya?" Ye baat nahi, form bharna hai. Ladke aise sawaal rejection ke darr se puchte hain, kyunki safe sawaal se koi naraz nahi hota. Par usse koi yaad bhi nahi rakhta.

Arthur Aron aur unki team ne 1997 mein ek experiment kiya tha jo mujhe bahut pasand hai. Do anjaan log, 45 minute, aur baari baari se aise sawaal jo har baar thoda aur personal hote jaate hain. End mein woh small talk karne walon se kahin zyada close feel kar rahe the. Isi ko "36 questions" kehte hain. Tumhe 36 nahi chahiye, ye 12 kaafi hain.

Ek ek karke pucho, aur apna jawab bhi batao.

1. "Aisi kaunsi cheez hai jis pe tum ghanton baat kar sakti ho?"
2. "Tumhari aisi kaunsi raay hai jis pe log tumse behes karte hain?"
3. "Bachpan mein kya banna chahti thi? Aur woh bachi aaj tumhe dekh ke kya bolegi?"
4. "Agar kal chhutti ho aur koi plan na ho, to tum kya karogi?"
5. "Tumhare dost tumhe teen words mein describe karein to kya bolenge? Aur kaunsa word galat hoga?"
6. "Aisi kaunsi cheez hai jo sabko boring lagti hai, par tumhe bahut pasand hai?"
7. "Pichhle ek saal mein tumne apne baare mein kya naya seekha?"
8. "Ek saal ke liye kisi bhi city mein reh sakti, to kaunsi chunti? Aur kyun?"
9. "Tumhari life ka sabse random din kaunsa tha?"
10. "Mood kharab ho to kaunsi cheez usse turant theek kar deti hai?"
11. "Aisa kya hai jo tumhe dekh ke koi andaaza nahi laga sakta?"
12. "Tumhe sabse zyada hasi kis baat pe aati hai?"

Asli kaam agle sawaal mein hota hai. Woh jo bhi bole, bas pucho "Kyun?" ya "Phir kya hua?" Wahi interview ko conversation bana deta hai.

Aur pehli baat mein ye mat pucho: "boyfriend hai?", uske ex ke baare mein, ya uski body ke baare mein kuch bhi. Mera rule ye hai ki jo sawaal tum uske saamne baith ke nahi puch sakte, woh message pe bhi mat pucho.

Aamne saamne pehli baat kaise shuru karo, woh ladki se baat kaise kare mein hai.

Ladki ko impress kaise kare in chat (message mein kya likhe)

Pehla rule: "Hi, how are you?" mat bhejo. Uske inbox mein har doosra ladka yahi bhej raha hai. Uski profile ki kisi sachi cheez pe halka sa mazaak karo, jaise: "Tum sach mein itni trekking karti ho, ya ek hi trip ki photos teen mahine se chal rahi hain?"

Reply na aaye to doosra message mat bhejo. Ek message bheja, ab apna din jiyo.

Aur chat ko hafton tak mat kheencho, chat pe koi kisi ko impress nahi karta. Office ya college wali jaan pehchaan hai to 10 se 15 minute ki mazedaar chat ke baad, aur Instagram ya app se mili hai to lagbhag aadhe ghante baad, usko call pe le jao.

Pehla message, "hmm" ka reply, aur call kab maango, ye sab maine ladki se chat kaise kare mein examples ke saath likha hai.

Crush ko impress kaise kare

Crush ke saamne sab ulta ho jaata hai. Haath thande, dimaag khaali, aur ghar pe 20 baar practice ki hui line pata nahi kahan gayab.

Kyunki tumne usko dimaag mein itna bada bana diya hai ki ab woh tumhare liye normal ladki rahi hi nahi, "crush" ban gayi hai.

Isliye crush ko impress karne ka sabse achha tareeka hai: usko crush banne hi mat do. Usse waise hi baat karo jaise kisi normal insaan se karte ho, relaxed aur thode mazaak ke saath. Mahino tak "sahi waqt" ka intezaar mat karo. Baat achhi chal rahi hai, to wahi sahi waqt hai. Milne ke liye pucho. Aur uska best friend ban ke mauke ka wait karne wala plan? Bhool jao.

Aur ek baat. Kisi se baat karne ke baad hum lagataar sochte hain ki saamne wale ko hum kam pasand aaye, jabki asal mein zyada aaye the. Ye main nahi, Boothby aur unki team ki 2018 ki research kehti hai. Isko "liking gap" kehte hain. To apne darr pe itna bharosa mat karo.

Woh tumhe pasand karti hai ya nahi, iske signs ladki kaise pataye mein hain.

Girlfriend ko kaise impress kare

Girlfriend ban jaane ke baad zyada tar ladke impress karna hi band kar dete hain. Saal mein ek baar birthday pe bada surprise, aur baaki 364 din wahi routine.

Main personally maanta hoon ki relationship bade gestures pe nahi, roz ki chhoti cheezon pe chalta hai. Relationship researcher John Gottman inhe "bids" kehte hain, yaani attention ke chhote signal, jaise "Ye meme dekho" ya "Aaj office mein pata hai kya hua?" Unki research mein khush couples lagbhag 86% baar in bids ki taraf mude. Jinka baad mein divorce hua, woh sirf lagbhag 33% baar.

Matlab jab woh meme bhejti hai, to woh tumhe apni taraf bula rahi hai.

To jab woh kuch share kare, phone neeche rakh ke suno. Chhoti baatein dimaag mein rakho, jaise uski presentation kab hai ya chai mein kitni cheeni. Dates ab bhi tum plan karo. Aur apni zindagi mat chhodo, kyunki woh jis ladke se impress hui thi, uske apne goals the, apne dost the, apni raay thi. Woh ladka bane raho.

Aur agar abhi girlfriend hi nahi hai, to pehle girlfriend kaise banaye padh lo.

Ladki ko impress karna: common sawaal

Tumhe koi aur banne ki zaroorat nahi hai.
Bas thoda kam darna hai.

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Written by

Jaskaran Singh

Dating and relationship coach for men. I cleared CA, then walked away from that career, because I'd spent years being rejected and finally understood why. 8+ years and 50,000+ men later, I teach Indian men how to love and be loved.

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