Kabhi ek message teen baar likh ke delete kiya hai?
Aur end mein bheja bhi to "Hi, how are you?"
Phir wahi hua jo hamesha hota hai. Usne likha "good, u?", tumne likha "main bhi badhiya, aur batao?", aur chat wahin ki wahin ruk gayi.
Dekho, ladki se chat kaise kare, ye sawaal most ladke tab puchte hain jab chat thandi pad chuki hoti hai. Unko lagta hai ladki ko interest hi nahi tha, jabki unhone dar ke maare sabse safe message bheja tha, aur safe message ka reply bhi thanda hi aata hai.
Usko tumse baat karne ki ek wajah chahiye. Baaki sab uske baad aata hai.
Ladki se chat kaise kare? Jaldi mein ho to bas itna padh lo
"Hi, how are you?" se shuru mat karo, woh har doosra ladka bhejta hai. Pehla message aisa ho jisse usko curiosity ho. Phir sawaal kam aur personality zyada, reply na aaye to double texting nahi, aur "hmm" aaye to baat ko nayi direction do. 10 se 30 minute ki achhi chat ke baad usko call pe le aao. Chat bas shuruaat hai.
Sabse badi galti: chat mein personality hi nahi hoti
Zyada tar ladkon ki chat ek job interview jaisi lagti hai. "Kya kar rahi ho?" "Khana khaya?" "Aur batao?" Jis sawaal ka jawab ek word mein ho sakta hai, uska jawab woh ek word mein hi degi.
In my wordsThe biggest turn-off is that they do not have any personality. They do not create any kind of fun conversation, or a reason for a girl to even want to talk to them. They don't make a move in a way that makes her actually think about the message, or puts a smile on her face.
They are always worried about being rejected. There is some tension and stress lurking around, a fear of being abandoned, and because of it they are always too simple, and their questions are too interview-style.
Sabse badi problem ye hai ki yahi rejection wala dar message ko "safe" bana deta hai. Tum sochte ho kuch ajeeb na lag jaaye, kuch zyada na ho jaaye, aur isi chakkar mein message itna seedha-saadha ho jaata hai ki usme tum kahin dikhte hi nahi.
Personality ke liye comedian banne ki zaroorat nahi. "Kya kar rahi ho?" ki jagah koi chhota sa observation bhejo jo tumne sach mein notice kiya ho, aur apne baare mein bhi kuch batao, taaki lage ki baat ho rahi hai, form nahi bhara ja raha. Bhejne se pehle bas socho: kya is pe woh muskurayegi? Agar nahi, to ye message koi bhi ladka bhej sakta tha.
Double texting: zyada effort ka matlab zyada attraction nahi
Most ladkon ko lagta hai ki jitne zyada message karenge, woh utna pasand karegi. Hota iska bilkul ulta hai.
In my wordsThe second biggest mistake they make is that they think more effort means more attraction, which is literally the opposite. More effort does not equal more attraction. And it definitely does not mean more messages and blowing up her phone.
If she is not replying back, double texting is the biggest problem they have.
Chaar message, zero reply. Aur har message ke saath tum thode aur halke padte gaye.
Jab woh reply nahi kar rahi, to aisa nahi ki message usko dikha nahi. Dikh gaya hai. Ek aur message se bas ye saaf hoga ki tum uske reply ke intezaar mein baithe ho. Phone side mein rakho, aur jab woh wapas aaye tab kuch mazedaar bhejo.
Ladki ko pehla message kya bheje
Hamesha yaad rakhna, pehle message ka ek hi kaam hai: usko reply karne ka mann kare. Woh padhe aur soche, "accha? ye kya keh raha hai?"
In my wordsOne message I would never send as a first message, on Instagram or WhatsApp, is a normal "Hi, how are you?", because every other guy sends this.
If I have to send a first message, I would always send something funny, like: "There is something weird I noticed about your profile. I was just waiting for the right moment to tell you."
This always makes the girl curious to know what it is. And obviously, it creates an image of me that I am not a boring person. I have some edge, and an interesting personality.
Ek curious line, aur ab usko khud jaanna hai.
Jab woh puche "kya?", tab uski profile se koi aisi cheez uthao jo tumne sach mein notice ki ho, aur halka sa tease karo: "Tumhari har photo mein coffee hai. Main decide nahi kar pa raha ki tum coffee ki fan ho ya uski brand ambassador." Mazaak aisa ho ki woh hase, bura na maane.
Aur haan, ye coffee wali line har ladki ko copy paste mat kar dena. Uski profile mein jo tumhe sach mein mazedaar laga, wahi bolo.
Ladki "hmm" ya "ok" bole to kya reply kare
Is pe main ghuma phira ke baat nahi karunga. "Hmm", "ok", "haha", in sab ka zyada tar ek hi matlab hota hai: abhi uska interest utna nahi hai.
Aur is waqt ek aur normal sawaal bhejoge, to jawab phir "hmm" hi aayega. Main yahan kya karta hoon, woh suno.
In my wordsWhen a girl replies "hmm", "okay" and all that, it simply means she is not that interested in you. So I would always do something I call calling her out. It simply means I ask her an emotionally jarring question, which can break her pattern.
For example: "Can I be honest with you? Can I ask you something?" She'll say yes, and I'll say something like, "Have you been recently heartbroken by someone?"
Even if she hasn't been, it will kind of emotionally trigger her, and she'll start asking, "Why do you even say that? Why are you asking this?" And if she really has been, she'll be curious: "How do you even know?" In 50% of the cases you hit the jackpot, and it becomes a different conversation altogether. She stops ignoring you, because you instantly become an interesting person in her eyes.
If not, it still becomes a conversation where she is behaving in a way that usually doesn't happen to you. It means you are a high-quality man who women don't ignore. Either way, it works.
But always remember: you should never offend a girl, or hurt somebody, just to trigger them.
Wahi ladki jo ek minute pehle "hmm" bol rahi thi, ab khud sawaal puch rahi hai.
Is sawaal ka kaam usko hurt karna bilkul nahi hai, bas ek second ke liye rokna hai. Woh baat taal de, to taalne do aur kisi halki baat pe aa jao.
Aur bhi reply hain, funny wale bhi, "ok" aur "haha" ke bhi. Sab yahan hain: "hmm", "ok" aur "haha" ka reply kya de, 18 ready lines ke saath.
Chat se call tak: kab aur kaise
Sabse bada jhooth jo ladke khud se bolte hain: "Pehle chat pe achhe se jaan leta hoon, phir call karunga."
In my wordsAfter an interesting conversation, it depends on the situation. If it's a colleague, or there is a warm approach, 10 to 15 minutes of conversation is good enough. If it is somebody really random, then maybe at least a 30-minute conversation, and from there, moving to a phone call is better.
Just do the escalation as soon as possible, because it's a waste of time when the chatting goes on endlessly. Asking for a call is always a good bet, because now the true conversation can start.
Never confuse chatting with actual conversation. Chatting is just a filler. It is not for getting to know somebody.
Main personally maanta hoon ki chat pe tum kisi ko sach mein jaan hi nahi sakte. Wahan tum usko literally utna hi jaante ho jitna woh soch soch ke type karti hai. Call pe uski hasi sunai deti hai, aur woh chhota sa pause bhi jab tumne kuch achha bol diya.
Toh kitni der chat? Jaan pehchaan ki ho, jaise colleague ya kisi friend ki friend, to 10 se 15 minute ki achhi chat kaafi hai. Bilkul nayi ho, Instagram ya dating app wali, to lagbhag 30 minute. Aur call tab pucho jab baat sabse mazedaar chal rahi ho: "Ye baat chat pe khatam nahi hogi. 5 minute call karein?"
Call ke baad agla step hai milna, aur face to face baat kaise karni hai woh yahan hai: ladki se baat kaise kare. Dating apps pe ho, to pehle dekh lo ki India mein kaunsi dating apps sach mein kaam karti hain.
Chat toh ho rahi hai. Date kab hogi?
Har ladki ke liye nayi line nahi chahiye. Bas ye samajhna hai ki chat mein attraction banta kaise hai, aur mera ₹89 workshop pehle message se lekar date tak yahi sikhata hai.
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Chat mein ye galtiyan kabhi mat karo
Ye galtiyan itni common hain ki most ladke inme se teen chaar ek hi chat mein kar dete hain:
- Chat "Hi, how are you?" se shuru karna.
- Sawaal pe sawaal, jaise interview chal raha ho.
- Reply nahi aaya to message pe message, bilkul upar wali chat ki tarah.
- "Hmm" aaya to aur boring ho jaana, jabki wahi moment tha kuch naya laane ka.
- Hafton tak sirf chat chalana, aur call ka naam bhi na lena.
- Reaction ke liye chubhne wali baat bolna. Deep sawaal theek hai, insult kabhi nahi.
Ladki se chat: common sawaal
Ladki se chat kaise start kare?
"Hi, how are you?" se toh bilkul mat karna, uske inbox mein har doosra ladka yahi bhejta hai. Aisa pehla message bhejo jisse usko curiosity ho, jaise: "There is something weird I noticed about your profile. I was just waiting for the right moment to tell you." Jab woh puche "kya?", tab uski profile ki koi sachi, halki funny baat bolo.
Ladki 'hmm' ya 'ok' reply kare to kya kare?
Zyada tar iska matlab hai ki is waqt usko chat mein utna maza nahi aa raha, to ek aur "aur batao?" se kuch nahi badlega. Main pehle puchta hoon "Can I be honest with you? Can I ask you something?", aur haan aane pe ek emotional sawaal. Bas sawaal aisa ho jo usko sochne pe majboor kare, chubhe nahi.
Kya double texting karna theek hai?
Jab woh reply hi nahi kar rahi, tab message pe message bhejna sabse badi galti hai. Zyada effort se zyada attraction nahi aata, bas ye dikhta hai ki tum uske reply ke intezaar mein baithe ho. Ruko, apna kaam karo, aur jab woh khud reply kare tab baat ko interesting banao.
Chat se call pe kab jaana chahiye?
Jaan pehchaan wali ladki ho, jaise colleague ya friend ki friend, to 10 se 15 minute ki achhi chat ke baad. Bilkul nayi ho, Instagram ya dating app wali, to lagbhag 30 minute ke baad. Call tab pucho jab chat sabse mazedaar chal rahi ho, kyunki asli conversation wahin se shuru hoti hai.
Kya chat se kisi ladki ko jaana ja sakta hai?
Mere hisaab se nahi. Chatting sirf ek filler hai, wahan har message soch soch ke type hota hai. Kisi ko sach mein jaanne ke liye call aur milna zaroori hai, chat ka kaam bas tumhe wahan tak pahunchana hai.
Ladki se chat mein kya baat kare?
"Kya kar rahi ho" aur "khana khaya" jaise interview wale sawaal chhodo. Uski profile pe, ya usne pichhli baar jo bataya tha us pe, ek funny observation bhejo, thoda tease karo, aur apne baare mein bhi kuch batao. Achhi chat woh hai jisme woh muskuraye, ya ek second ruk ke soche.
