Teen letter. Ek "h", do "m".
Aur tumhara poora mood off.
Tumne das minute laga ke message likha tha, beech mein ek joke bhi daala tha, aur jawab aaya "hmm". Ab tum kabhi keyboard kholte ho, kabhi band karte ho, aur soch rahe ho ki hmm ka reply kya de.
Mujhe personally lagta hai ki "hmm" pe chat khatam nahi hoti. Bas ball tumhare court mein aa jaati hai, aur tumhara agla message decide karta hai ki chat yahin marti hai ya wapas chal padti hai.
Lines main dunga, poori 18. Par pehle ye samajh lo ki uska "hmm" keh kya raha hai, kyunki galat "hmm" pe sahi line bhi fail ho jaati hai.
Hmm ka reply kya de? Pehle kaam ki baat
"Hmm kya?" ya ek aur boring sawaal bhejne se kuch nahi hoga. Zyada tar "hmm" ka matlab hai ki abhi woh itni interested nahi hai, ya chat thandi pad gayi hai. Toh baat ko kisi nayi taraf le jao: uske "hmm" pe halka sa tease, ek mazedaar sawaal, ek honest emotional sawaal, ya seedha call. Aur agar kai dinon se har reply "hmm" hi aa raha hai, to apni izzat rakho aur aage badho.
"Hmm" ka matlab kya hota hai? Chaar matlab, aur tumhara wala kaunsa hai
"Hmm", "ok", "k", "haha", "accha". Isko dry texting bolte hain: aise chhote replies jinme na koi sawaal hota hai, na koi energy, aur baat aage badhane ka poora load tum pe aa jaata hai.
Har dry reply ke peeche usually in chaar mein se koi ek cheez hoti hai.
- Woh busy hai, ya thak gayi hai. Waise woh achhe se baat karti hai, aur agle din khud poore sentences mein wapas aati hai.
- Chat boring ho gayi hai. Apne pichhle chaar message padho. Agar sab "khana khaya?", "din kaisa tha?", "aur kya chal raha hai?" type hain, to uska "hmm" tumhe nahi, tumhare sawaalon ko jawab hai.
- Woh wait kar rahi hai ki tum lead karo. Reply jaldi aata hai, woh online bhi dikhti hai, par khud koi topic nahi laati. Ball tumhare paas hai.
- Abhi interest kam hai. Kai dinon se sirf "hmm", woh kabhi khud chat shuru nahi karti, kabhi kuch puchti nahi, aur har reply ghanton baad aata hai.
Aur zyada tar kaunsa hota hai? Mera jawab seedha hai:
In my wordsWhen a girl replies "hmm", "okay" and all that, it simply means she is not that interested in you.
Par isko "kabhi nahi" mat samajh lena. Iska simple matlab hai ki abhi, is chat mein, usko utna maza nahi aa raha. Interest koi pathar ki lakeer nahi hai. Boring chat mein girta hai, aur achhi chat mein wapas bhi aa jaata hai.
Tumhara wala "hmm" kaunsa hai?
Reply karne se pehle ek minute ruko aur thoda detective bano. Raat ek baje ka "hmm" aur Sunday dopahar ka "hmm" alag cheezein hain. Apna pichhla message padho, kyunki agar woh bhi ek boring sawaal tha, to sach kahun to "hmm" uska sahi jawab tha. Aur ek "hmm" pe mat jao, pichhle hafte ki chat dekho: woh kabhi khud message karti hai? Kabhi kuch puchti hai? Ek "hmm" kuch nahi batata, poore hafte ke "hmm" sab bata dete hain.
Ladki "hmm" bole to kya kare: wahi purana track mat chalao
Zyada tar ladke "hmm" ke baad bhi wahi karte rehte hain jo pehle kar rahe the. "Aur batao?" "hmm". "Aur kya chal raha hai?" "hmm". Har round ke baad dono thode aur bore.
Ye main lagbhag har us ladke mein dekhta hoon jise main coach karta hoon. Rejection ke dar se woh safe sawaal pe safe sawaal bhejta hai, aur boring lagne lagta hai, jabki asal mein woh boring hai hi nahi, bas dara hua hai.
Aksar problem uska "hmm" nahi hota. Problem tumhara pichhla message hota hai.
Isliye "hmm" ke baad bas ek kaam karo, track badlo. Wahi topic kheenchte rahoge to wahi "hmm" aata rahega.
Ek study hai, 1997 ki, Arthur Aron aur unki team ki. Unhone anjaan logon ke pairs banaye. Kuch pairs ne 45 minute tak baari baari aise sawaalon ke jawab diye jo dheere dheere personal hote gaye, aur baaki ne bas small talk kiya. End mein pehle wale log ek doosre ke kahin zyada close feel kar rahe the.
Ab isko apni chat pe lagao. "Khana khaya?" small talk hai. "Aajkal kaunsi cheez tumhe bina wajah khush kar deti hai?" thoda personal hai. Tum khud kaunse sawaal ka jawab dena pasand karoge?
Aur agar tumhari chat pehle message se hi thandi rehti hai, to problem "hmm" se pehle ki hai. Pehla message kaise bhejna hai, woh maine ladki se chat kaise kare mein likha hai. Yahan sirf "hmm" ki baat.
Hmm ka reply: 18 lines jo sach mein kaam karti hain
Ye lines copy kar sakte ho, bas bhejne se pehle apne style mein bol ke dekho. Jo line tumhari apni nahi lagti, woh usko bhi kahin se uthayi hui lagegi.
Har group ke upar likha hai ki woh kab kaam aata hai. Funny wali lines tab, jab chat thodi boring ho gayi ho. Aur agar woh wait kar rahi hai ki tum lead karo, to 5 se 8 ya 12 se 14 try karo.
Funny reply: "hmm" pe halka tease
Mazaak uske "hmm" pe karo, usko kabhi target mat banao. Aur agar mazaak thoda khud pe ho, to aur bhi achha.
- "Is 'hmm' ke teen matlab ho sakte hain. Busy, bore, ya 'ye ladka interesting hai'. Main teesra maan ke chal raha hoon."
- "Ye 'hmm' haan wala tha, ya 'bas karo ab' wala?"
- "Is 'hmm' se papa yaad aa gaye. Result wale din woh bhi yahi bolte the."
- "Chalo, main isko 'hmm, kitna interesting ladka hai' padh leta hoon. Positive insaan hoon."
Curious sawaal: jab chat interview ban gayi ho
Aisa sawaal pucho jiska jawab dene mein usko khud maza aaye. Jiska jawab haan ya naa mein khatam na ho, balki ek chhoti si kahani nikle.
- "Random sawaal: tumhara sabse useless talent kya hai? Mera sunogi to hasogi."
- "Sach batao, tum woh insaan ho jo movie ka end pehle Google kar leti hai?"
- "Aajkal kaunsi cheez tumhe bina wajah khush kar deti hai?"
- "Tumhare phone mein abhi kaunsa gaana repeat pe chal raha hai? Judge nahi karunga. Shayad."
Call her out: jab interest sach mein kam lage
Jab mujhe lagta hai ki interest sach mein gir raha hai, to main hamesha yahi karta hoon. Ek aisa sawaal jo usko ek second ke liye rok de.
In my wordsI would always do something I call calling her out. It simply means I ask her an emotionally jarring question, which can break her pattern. For example: "Can I be honest with you? Can I ask you something?" She'll say yes, and I'll say something like, "Have you been recently heartbroken by someone?"
You should never offend a girl, or hurt somebody, just to trigger them.
- "Can I be honest with you? Can I ask you something?" Woh haan bole, tab: "Have you been recently heartbroken by someone?"
- "Ek personal sawaal puchun?" Haan aaye, tab: "Tum logon pe itni jaldi trust nahi karti na?"
- "Ek honest sawaal: aajkal sach mein khush ho, ya bas busy ho?"
Bas ek line kabhi cross mat karna: sawaal dil ko chhoo sakta hai, par aisa kabhi nahi jo uske looks, character ya ex ko judge kare. Woh jawab na de to bina pressure ke topic badal do, aur ek chat mein ye ek hi baar, kyunki har "hmm" pe deep sawaal ajeeb lagta hai.
Aur jab woh puche "aisa kyun pucha?", to seedha bata do ki tumhe kya laga, jaise neeche example 2 mein.
Call pe le jao: jab woh typing se thak gayi ho
Ye tab kaam aata hai jab pehle achhi baat ho chuki ho, aur ab bas typing ki energy khatam ho gayi ho.
- "Lagta hai typing se thak gayi ho. Call karein? Main bolunga, tum bas 'hmm' karte rehna."
- "Mujhe ye 'hmm' tumhari awaaz mein sunna hai. Kal shaam 5 minute call?"
- "Chat pe tum 'hmm' karti ho. Coffee pe dekhte hain kitna bolti ho. Is Saturday?"
Awaaz mein jo baat hai, woh teen letter ke "hmm" mein kabhi nahi aa sakti. Call kab puchna hai aur kitni chat ke baad, uska poora hisaab is chat guide mein hai.
Saans lene do: jab woh busy ho, ya chat thak gayi ho
Har chat 24 ghante nahi chal sakti. Ye usko tadpane wala koi game nahi hai, bas samajhdari hai: woh thaki hai to aaram karne do, aur agle din kuch naya lekar aao.
- Abhi: "Lagta hai aaj ka din lamba tha. Aaram karo, kal baat karte hain."
- Agle din, apne din ki koi sachi funny cheez, uske "hmm" se jod ke: "Aaj metro mein ek uncle 20 minute tak phone pe sirf 'hmm' bolte rahe. Tumhara record khatre mein hai."
- Agle din, uski kahi kisi baat pe: "Tumne kaha tha momos ke bina tumhara din adhoora hai. Aaj ek jagah mili hai. Tum yakeen nahi karogi."
- Agle din, text ki jagah voice note: "Aaj ek cheez hui. Type karunga to maza nahi aayega. Suno."
"Hmm" se date tak
Ek achhi line ek raat ki chat bacha sakti hai. Par agar har chat "hmm" pe aake atakti hai, to tumhe aur lines nahi, ek tareeka chahiye. Mere ₹89 workshop mein main wahi sikhata hoon: dry chat mein jaan kaise daalein, aur usse call aur date tak kaise pahunchein.
Ek ladki ka "hmm" dimaag se nahi ja raha? Meri team ke saath free 1-on-1 call book karo.
Dry texting examples: dead chat wapas zinda kaise hoti hai
Ab teen chhoti chats dekho. Teeno mein "hmm" aaya, aur agle ek message ne mood palat diya.
Example 1: interview se hasi tak
Ek tease aur ek mazedaar sawaal, aur chaar minute mein "hmm" se hasi tak.
Example 2: call her out, aur uske baad kya bolna hai
Sawaal thoda deep tha, jawab sacha tha, aur baat khud call tak pahunch gayi. Insult ya drama ki zaroorat hi nahi padi.
Example 3: ek raat ruko, phir kuch naya lao
Kal ka "hmm" bas thakaan thi. Ek raat ka gap diya, aur chat bach gayi.
"Ok", "haha" aur "k" ka reply kya de
"Hmm" akela nahi aata. Uski poori family hai.
"Ok" ka reply
"Ok" ka matlab poori tarah tumhare pichhle message pe tika hota hai. Agar tumne plan pucha tha, "Saturday 7 baje?", aur usne bola "ok", to ye dry reply hai hi nahi, ye plan pakka hai. Bas confirm karo: "Done. Late aayi to coffee tumhari taraf se."
Lekin kisi lambi baat ke baad "ok" aaye, to samjho woh topic khatam ho chuka hai. Usko aur mat kheencho. Koi naya topic lao, jaise line 5 ya 6.
"Haha" ka reply
"Haha" hamesha dry nahi hota. Akela "haha" matlab baat thodi funny thi, par usko aage kuch kehna nahi hai. "Hahahaha" ke saath ek aur line aaye, to woh chat enjoy kar rahi hai.
Dono case mein apna joke kabhi explain mat karna, kyunki "funny tha na?" puchte hi joke wahin mar jaata hai. Uski jagah ball uske paas bhejo: "Ab tumhari baari. School mein tumne sabse embarrassing kya kiya tha?"
"K" ka reply
"K" sabse thanda reply hai, aur iska reply dene ki zaroorat hi nahi hai. Haan, tumne sahi padha. Chat ko wahin chhod do, aur agli baar kuch naya lekar aao, jaise line 16 ya 17.
Dating apps pe ye sab aur zyada hota hai, kyunki wahan uske paas ek saath kai chats khuli hoti hain. App pe kya chalta hai, woh dating apps in India wale post mein hai.
"Hmm" ke reply mein ye kabhi mat bhejo
Aur ab woh messages jinke baad chat sach mein mar jaati hai.
- "Hmm kya?" ya "Sirf hmm?" Ye shikayat hai. Ab usko apna reply defend karna padega, aur defend karte karte koi interested nahi hota.
- "Itna dry kyun ho?" Blame karne se attraction nahi banta. Woh bas thoda aur door ho jaati hai.
- Uske "hmm" ke jawab mein tumhara "hmm". Ab literally do log bore ho rahe hain.
- "??", "Hello?", "Itna busy?" Double texting se kuch nahi milta. Tumne ek achha message bhej diya, woh kaafi tha.
- "Theek hai, main hi bore karta hoon." Ya "Baat nahi karni to bol do." Ye guilt trip hai. Tum usko apni feelings ka zimmedaar bana rahe ho, aur isse pyaar nahi, sirf pressure banta hai.
- Raat 2 baje ka lamba paragraph ki tum kitna ignored feel kar rahe ho. Aisi baatein chat pe kabhi theek nahi baithti.
- Interview ka agla sawaal. "Aur batao?" "Aur kya chal raha hai?" Isi se to "hmm" aaya tha.
Dhyan se dekho to in sab ke peeche ek hi cheez hai.
In my wordsIn the wish to be validated by the girl, they stop validating themselves, and that is the biggest problem.
Isliye agla message bhejne se pehle bas itna khud se pucho: ye main isliye bhej raha hoon kyunki mere paas kehne ko kuch achha hai, ya isliye kyunki mujhe bas uska reply chahiye?
Har reply "hmm" ho to kab rukna hai
Kuch chats bach jaati hain, kuch nahi bachti, aur dono ka farak pehchanna bhi ek skill hai.
Ruk jao, jab tumhe ye dikhne lage:
- Kai dinon se har reply "hmm", "ok" ya "k" hai.
- Woh kabhi khud chat shuru nahi karti, aur kabhi tumse kuch nahi puchti.
- Tumne do teen baar sach mein koshish ki, tease bhi kiya, achha sawaal bhi pucha, honest sawaal bhi. Phir bhi "hmm".
- Call ya milne ki baat pe woh har baar taal deti hai.
Rukna haar nahi hai. Rukna self-respect hai.
Aur rukne ka matlab usko sabak sikhana ya apne peeche bhagana nahi hai. Na gussa, na koi "tum pachtaogi" wala message. Bas message band karo, apni life pe dhyan do, aur woh kabhi achhi energy ke saath khud wapas aaye to achhe se baat karna.
In my wordsNever try to find a person and convince them to love you. Find the ones who already do, naturally.
Aur agar tum mahino se ek hi ladki ke "hmm" pe atke ho, to ab ye chat ki problem nahi rahi. Ye one sided love ban chuka hai, aur usse nikalne ka raasta bilkul alag hai.
Hmm ka reply: common sawaal
Hmm ka reply kya dena chahiye?
Aisa reply jo baat ko kisi nayi taraf le jaaye, "hmm kya?" ya ek aur "aur batao?" nahi. Uske "hmm" pe halka sa tease karo, ek mazedaar sawaal pucho, ek honest emotional sawaal pucho, ya chat ko call pe le jao. Aur agar woh thaki hui lag rahi hai, to "Aaram karo, kal baat karte hain" bhi ek bahut achha reply hai.
Ladki "hmm" kyun bolti hai?
Chaar wajah ho sakti hain: woh busy ya thaki hui hai, chat boring ho gayi hai, woh wait kar rahi hai ki tum lead karo, ya abhi uska interest kam hai. Zyada tar iska matlab hota hai ki abhi woh itni interested nahi hai. Tumhara wala kaunsa hai, ye time, tumhara pichhla message aur pichhle hafte ki chat dekh ke pata chalta hai.
Hmm ka reply English mein kya de?
Rules wahi rehte hain, bas language English ho jaati hai. Jaise: "Is that a happy hmm or a 'please stop talking' hmm?" Ya mera call her out wala sawaal: "Can I be honest with you? Can I ask you something?" Aur woh thaki hui lage to: "You sound tired. Quick call instead of typing?"
Kya dry texting red flag hai?
Hamesha nahi. Ek din ke dry replies ka matlab bas itna ho sakta hai ki woh busy thi ya thak gayi thi. Signal tab hai jab kai dinon tak sirf "hmm" aaye, woh kabhi khud chat shuru na kare aur kabhi kuch na puche. Aur tab bhi ye uske character pe koi red flag nahi hai, bas itna bata raha hai ki abhi uska interest kam hai.
Ladki "ok" bole to kya reply kare?
Pehle dekho ki "ok" kis baat pe aaya. Plan ke baad aaya hai to woh haan hai, bas confirm karo aur aage badho. Kisi lambi baat ke baad aaya hai to woh topic khatam ho chuka hai, usko mat kheencho aur koi naya mazedaar sawaal pucho.
"Hmm" ke baad double text karna chahiye?
Nahi. Usne "hmm" bheja, tumne ek achha message bhej diya, bas itna kaafi hai. Uske baad bhi reply na aaye to "??" ya "hello?" mat bhejna. Phone rakho, apne din pe dhyan do, aur baad mein kuch naya lekar aao.
Kab samjhe ki ladki interested nahi hai?
Jab kai dinon se har reply "hmm" ya "ok" ho, woh kabhi khud message na kare, kabhi kuch na puche, aur call ya milne ki baat har baar taal de. Us waqt usko convince karne mat baitho. Apni izzat rakho, message karna band karo, aur un logon ko time do jo sach mein tumse baat karna chahte hain.
